"Perspective taking goes far beyond empathy; it involves figuring out what others think and feel, and forms the basis for children’s understanding of their parents’, teachers’, and friends’ intentions. Children who can take others’ perspectives are also much less likely to get involved in conflicts."
Children learn perspective taking skills when we are willing to understand their perspective.
When we are gentle with ourselves, especially when we feel we are at our "worst," we begin the process of moving through our past and creating a present with children where everyone's perspective and everyone's needs have value.
We go beyond the either-or mentality and open the possibility that we can meet everyone's needs.
Read more: How children learn perspective taking