When you start the practice and at times when you feel you can only manage a little.....perhaps as you light your candle...here is a simple loving-kindness meditation:
As you breathe in – cherish yourself
As you breathe out – cherish all beings
If you find it difficult to feel that you are caring for yourself, just lay a hand gently on your heart region as you think or say these phrases. You can use them when you sit for dedicated times of meditation practice. You can also use them as a 'post it note' practice. Maybe you'd like to write them out and stick them up somewhere you can see them, to remind you throughout the day.