June is often the month many of us associate with marriage. I am reminded of movies that said ….”and than they lived happily ever after.” THE END. Of course, the truth is, it is the beginning.
When we marry, we each agree to include in our well being the other ; “for better or for worse”. None of us fully understands what this means. When understanding begins to happen, some of us get divorced, others shut down, and others become angry. Few of us have the maturity and wisdom to see the opportunity that life is offering us.
In order to live happily ever after, we must first be in a state of personal happiness. If we are not happy within ourselves we will not be capable of being happy with another.
In any long term relationship, such as marriage, we are confronted with the opportunity/challenge to become aware of how we judge ourselves and our partners. If we have the courage to do this, we will have begun a journey of self discovery that will led to happiness and fulfillment.
The journey requires us to be aware of how we think and how we feel without judging ourselves as good or bad or right or wrong. It also requires us to accept that we are human, as are our partners, and we all have the same human limitations.
Our tendency is to see these limitations or negativities in ourselves, deny or justify them and project them onto our partners and judge them harshly. The judgment then leads to our reactions: anger, resentment, or righteousness, to name a few.
The above behavior destroys the possibility of happiness and love in a long term relationship. When we are on the journey of self awareness without judgment, we begin to relax, have more fun, and develop a sense of humor about the human condition. All of this leads to being more playful with our partners and ourselves. We stop taking ourselves so seriously, therefore, love, happiness and fulfillment flourish.
The secret to living “happily ever after” is to put in the effort to learn and apply the skill of self awareness without judgment. When you learn Life Mastery Skills you will be able to be aware without judgment.
My blessing for us is that we are willing to create our happiness together.
Sheila Radha
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Aloha,
Sheila Radha Conrad
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